There are many things that I have realized about myself recently (or rediscovered). Most of them are personality attributes and things that influence my communication (or lack thereof) with people. The main identifier is: I am an introvert. As an introvert, I am not extremely good at talking to people, small talk, and many, MANY other social events. However, I have tons of opinions and thoughts which is why I started a blog. When I try to express these thoughts it is either extremely eloquent or.. Bleeeeeegggghhhh. It comes out more nonsensical than a Dr.Suess book. Here is an example of a “conversation” I had when my introvert was on high.
Me: Hey! How are you?
Responder: I’m doing pretty good, how are you?
Me: Well, I saw you right? And I told myself, I’m going to say hello, but since I’m generally nervous talking to people I was like, “No”. Then I says to myself I says, “Shaquim?”. I respond “Yes Shaquim?” “Put your man pants on” “Put I’m an introvert” “But that’s your friend!!” And I say “You are right, thank you Shaquim!” So I come over here and say “Hello”. But I don’t want to keep you too long, so! Goodbye!
Classy Huh? So I’ve tried to counter these responses with a change in mindset. I have labeled it, “The Cool”. Basically, when I do anything, I think, Relaxxxxx, it’s all good, just be cool. Which takes me a tad bit further until I end up in a conversation about a topic I know little to nothing about, like! Cars. There are other things, but Cars are common for guys to talk about. I try to prepare myself for conversation through lots of analogies and stories. Unfortunately when I am in a car conversation, this is my story.
“You know, I was in a car once….it drove.”
Sometimes I might throw in some exaggeration.
“Morgan Freeman crafted this car for me when I was a child, and I have to go to him to fill up on gas because it is fueled by freckle sweat.”
This may be my subconscious mind fighting off other members of society to fully isolate me to make space for: Saxophone, Homework, and Latin American cuisine.
However, I have to train my mind to be more socially acceptable and plan out more spontaneous dialogue (Ironic isn’t it?). Oddly enough, I have little to no trouble talking about engaging subjects such as politics, music (things that I am interested in.) Which shows my inner GOOD-BAD-GOOD. (Great article, great website!!). So after reading that article, you now know that I should have amazing social skills, however I just have enough social awkwardness to make people think I am hilarious. (I’m going to write an article about that very soon). But! Feel free to ask me when you see me how am I doing on my small talk/introversion, thank you for reading and special thanks to my beautiful girlfriend for the pictures!! I told her the idea and she drew it perfect!!